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　　 　确切的说，我第一次去海恩斯港(美国麻省城市)过周末，算不上是第一次拜见岳父岳母了。那之前我在电视和杂志上已经见到过萨尔奇(萨金特-施莱佛和尤尼斯-施莱佛，施瓦辛格的岳父和岳母)和尤尼斯，我觉得他们也知道我，萨尔奇告诉我虽然没见过面但他知道我很多事情，他曾经读过一本书，那本书将我写成近年来最优秀的移民者之一。

　　尽管如此，我还是想尽力给他留下点儿印象。萨尔奇是政治家，所以饭桌上讨论的话题很快过渡到了政治上，因为早做好了参与讨论的准备，我带着那厚重的奥地利口音热情洋溢的给理查德-尼克松唱起了赞歌。

　　我跟他们讲我是怎么样从一个社会主义国家走出来(施瓦辛格是奥地利人)，尼克松传播的自由主义思想是如何感染我的，尼克松使我相信美国，相信他描述的美好构想，相信他能做到一切。

　　5年前，萨尔奇曾经和著名参议员乔治-麦戈文一起搭档，参加过1972年的总统大选，单最终他们输给了尼克松和艾格纽这对对手，这么看来，女儿的男朋友在家庭宴会上公开给他的对头尼克松高唱赞歌对他来说显然应该是一种羞辱。然而从我认识他的那天起直到他离开人世，萨尔奇从来没有试图说服我，说服我这个共和党人的女婿放弃自己的信仰改加入民主党，甚至，他从未和我就此发起过家庭内部的党派争论。

　　萨尔奇的过人之处远不止此。那时候我是共和党人，是尼克松的忠实信徒，相信意志和身体的力量能够征服一切，但萨尔奇还是和过去一样不去说服我，相反，他通过以身作则和民事谈话活动，使我明白和相信心灵的力量才是高于一切的。

　　坦白说我不是个好学生，但萨尔奇却是位极好的老师，他教我如何运用自己的天赋，领导能力，品格，以及我所能拥有的一切去为他人服务，每一次和他聊天都能让我们明白，该如何尽自己最大的努力去帮助其他人。

　　他的话使我积极投身到特奥会的工作当中去，在特奥会指导了一个孩子后我得到了极大的满足，那种兴奋之情远胜过在好莱坞走一趟红地毯秀；他也是我志愿到国家健康委员会任职，致力于教育青少年们勤于参与体育运动增强体质，在2002年发起加州制强权投票以募集资金用于青少年课前课后运动健身项目的动力之源；最终也是他呼吁帮助他人的理念，使我最终转变到政府公职人员的角色，并在这个岗位上尽力为加州人民工作了7年。

　　我认识很多优秀的大导演，超级运动明星，成就斐然的教练，名声在外的演说家和杰出的演员，还有许多国家的国王总统和首相大臣等高官政要，但萨金特-施莱佛是我所认识的精神导师中最了不起的一位。

　　《打破镜中的自我》，这是萨尔奇在1994年耶鲁大学毕业典礼上所做的那篇广为人知的演讲的题目。别再只顾着沉湎在自我的世界里，别再变得那么自私，多认知和关心了解下其他人，了解他们的渴望和梦想，看看是什么触发了他们的喜怒哀乐，这次演讲深深震撼了我。彼时我还是个健美运动员，每天对着镜子不停的练习我的肱二头肌肱三头肌，不停的对着镜子练习各种动作校对姿势来打发人生，只因为站在镜子前那就是我的工作，就是我财富的来源。是萨尔奇的话使我明白，打破镜子中的自我，将你的能力和雄心壮志投入到为他人服务的工作当中去，才是真正意义上的成功。

　　不管你是民主党人还是共和党人，无论你是社会主义者，共产主义者，天主教徒，犹太教徒还是无神论者，都应该突破镜中的自我走出自私的空间，向他人伸出你的援手。这是一个再简单不过的信号，这是萨金特-施莱佛毕生的追求，对我来说它好比茫茫黑夜中的烛火，指引给我正确的方向。我的志向成功转向，这绝对要归功于萨尔奇。

　　此刻萨尔奇离我们而去了，周六，他的家人和朋友们聚集在华盛顿同他告别，但我们仍然祝贺他走过95年的光辉人生，并向他送出衷心的感谢，因为我们知道他的精神和理念，仍旧为千百万的世人所传承，这其中有的人曾经得到过他发起的那些助人为乐的项目的帮助，有的人则因此得到启发，致力于穷尽一生帮助他人为快乐的真谛。

　　最后，我想说的是，如何评价一个人的一生取决于他的奉献而并非拥有，这是萨金特-施莱佛教给我们的，他因此得到永生。

　　----阿诺-施瓦辛格(2011年1月22日于岳父萨金特-施莱佛葬礼)

　　背景资料：

　　萨金特-施莱佛(1915年11月9日-2011年1月18日)，美国已故政治家，和平集团创始人，就业工作团，启蒙教育项目发起者，还曾担任过美国驻法国大使。娶总统约翰-肯尼迪的妹妹尤尼斯-肯尼迪为妻，两人成为特奥会的创始人。1972年美国总统大选时，萨金特作为民主党的副总统候选人，和总统候选人乔治-麦戈文一起搭档参选，但最终输给了尼克松代表的共和党。

　　阿诺-施瓦辛格是生于奥地利的美国健身运动员、演员和政治家，是一位天主教徒，2003年11月任美国加州第38任州长，2011年1月3日卸任，任期达7年。萨金特-施莱佛是施瓦辛格政治上的启蒙老师，施瓦辛格和他的女儿玛利亚-施莱佛于1986年成婚。

　　Arnold Schwarzenegger on Sargent Shriver: The man who broke mirrors

　　It wasn't exactly "Meet the Parents" the first weekend I went to Hyannis Port. I had seen Sarge and Eunice Shriver in magazines and on television, and I felt like I knew them. And Sarge said he knew all about me. He had read a book that included me as one of the successful recent immigrants to America。

　　Still, I wanted to impress them. Sarge was a political man, so around the dinner table when the conversation turned to politics, I was ready to participate. With passion and vigor and a thick accent, I avidly praised Richard Nixon。

　　I told them how coming from a socialist country, I was so impressed by Nixon's determination to defeat communism and spread freedom. I went on and on about how Nixon had inspired me, made me believe in America, in its dream, and in all it has to offer。

　　Sarge had run for vice president on a ticket with George McGovern five years earlier, and they were defeated by Nixon and Spiro Agnew. So the fact that his daughter's date was singing Nixon's praises may have galled him. But from the first day I met him until the day he died, Sarge never tried to persuade me, his Republican son-in-law, to be a Democrat. He never tried to have a political debate。

　　Sarge was better than that。

　　Think about that. There I was, a Republican. I admired Nixon. I believed in the power of the mind, the power of the body, the power of the will. But Sarge never tried to convert me. Instead, through example and civil conversation, he taught me to believe in the power of the heart above all。

　　I wasn't always a perfect student, but he remained a perfect teacher. Sarge just wanted me to use my talents, charisma, personality — whatever I could muster — to serve. Always, the conversation with him was about how we could use the best parts of ourselves to help others。

　　That's what motivated me to get involved in Special Olympics. I came to realize I got far more joy and satisfaction coaching a kid in Special Olympics than I ever did walking a Hollywood red carpet. And that's why I volunteered to serve on the President's Council on Physical Fitness, encouraging kids to work out, participate in sports and develop healthy bodies. Sarge is why I developed after-school programs and led the fight for the 2002 California ballot initiative to fund before- and after-school programs. Ultimately, his call to service is why I ran for governor and devoted seven years to doing the best I could for the people of California。

　　Sarge was a motivator. I've known great directors, great athletes, great coaches and trainers, great speakers and great actors. I've known presidents, kings and prime ministers. But Sargent Shriver was the greatest motivator I have ever known。

　　Break mirrors, Sarge said in a renowned 1994 commencement speech he gave at Yale. Stop looking at yourself. Stop being so self-absorbed. Learn more about others — know their hopes and dreams, find out what makes them smile and what makes them weep. That speech hit me. There I was, a bodybuilder. I was someone who literally spent his life in front of mirrors, practicing poses, working on the biceps or the triceps, always checking the mirror for progress. Standing in front of mirrors was my job, my fortune. And Sarge convinced me that the only way to truly succeed is to break those mirrors, to direct that energy and ambition not toward myself but to serving others。

　　Serve as a Democrat; serve as a Republican. It doesn't matter if you're a socialist or a communist, a Catholic, a Jew or an atheist. Just break the mirror, walk out of the room, reach out and help others. It was a simple message. It was the point of Sargent Shriver's life. And for me it lit a candle in the darkness. It pointed me in the right direction. My ambition had been self-directed. But Sarge Shriver changed that。

　　And now he's gone. Saturday, his family and friends gathered in Washington to say goodbye to Sargent Shriver. But as we did, we also celebrated the 95 years of his brilliant life and gave thanks, because we know his spirit will live on in the millions of people around the world helped by the programs he spearheaded — and the millions more of us who have dedicated our lives to service as a result of his inspiration。

　　In the end, a man's life is measured not by what he has but by what he has given. Sargent Shriver taught us that — and he lived it。(正朗)